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Do These Five Things To Become the Person You Aspire To Be

Its time to dig up those dreams that got buried under old assumptions standards and expectations.

Have you ever found yourself in big trouble because you “assumed” something that turned out to be false? Of course!  That’s because an assumption is a belief, presumption, or conclusion about the present situation that is accepted as true, without proof.

Assumptions we make about things we have no control over, like other people and their actions, are useless and futile.  We can, however, take control over what we assume about ourselves. And, when we build synergy between our assumptions, standards and expectations for the future, we can change our life in significant ways. This is, of course, assuming we want to change our life.

The fact is, we make assumptions about ourselves all the time without even realizing it. The assumptions we make about ourselves and our abilities are, to a large degree, based on our self-esteem – beliefs instilled in us since childhood, and our life experiences that reinforced those beliefs.

Our assumptions, formed in the past have become our fundamental truth on which we have based our actions and thinking – how we see the world and respond to it.  One might say they have become our “state of being” – the levels of quality of attainment, we have deemed as acceptable.

But what if we really aspire to be better, smarter, happier, or different. Maybe we really want to enjoy a better or different state of being, but our assumptions about ourselves (our self-esteem) have created a thinking/feeling loop that has reinforced the mistaken idea that we are not worthy of anything better. So in reality, it’s usually not who we are that holds us back, it’s who we think we are not. We have stopped expecting anything different. Expectations differ from assumptions in that expectations are a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future, a belief that we will, should or could achieve something.

According to Dr. Joe Dispenza, author of Breaking the Habit of Becoming Yourself, by the time we are in our mid 30’s, about ninety five percent of ‘who we are’ is so habituated through repetition, that the body is a subconscious body-mind program.

We remain anchored to our past because our thoughts (our assumptions about our abilities) run us, and our expectations (based on our assumptions) own us in a thinking/feeling loop. We have created a standard of living, a state of being, that reinforces our assumptions and our expectations of ourselves and therefore, predicts what our future will look like.

Our limited expectations support our thoughts and assumptions in this thinking / feeling loop to create and reinforce our state of being – the quality of our present experience.

Thinking / Feeling Loop

A state of being is not a goal or an achievement. It is a quality of experience in our life. For example; being happy is not an achievement – it is a state, a quality of emotion and feeling.

If we accept the future as the realm of unlimited possibilities, we can transcend our current state of being and change our pattern of self-limiting assumptions that are based on past thoughts and emotions – the thinking/feeling loop. We can set new standards, and create expectations for new positive experiences.

How To Change Your State of Being

Where we focus our attention is where we place our energy. If we continue to hold the same assumptions, standards and expectations of ourselves we will continue to recycle the life of the past.  When we elevate our standards, and focus our attention on new positive assumptions about our abilities,  we can design new expectations and create a different future that meets our new expectations. We can train our brain to run our body instead of the other way around.

Do these five things, and you will begin to train your brain to change your future in a significant way by creating a new state of being.

  1. Assess the old self – the assumptions and standards that you are living with now. Ask yourself, “Is what I am doing right now working for me? Are your current actions resulting in the state of being you would like to experience? If not, what in your life is leading you away from your ideal experience, and how can you potentially change them? Understanding and examining your assumptions and beliefs is necessary if you desire to change your reality, because you attract to yourself those experiences that match your existing belief system.
  2. Ask yourself, “What is my ideal of what I can do, say or be today?”  This can be a way of speaking or acting, a new daily routine or a new choice that will support what you define as a happy experience and will replace any undesired assumptions and standards. Think of your standards as decision criteria – ways of understanding whether or not your actions are leading to your desired experiences. When you identify the states of being you want to experience, you can set ideals or standards to drive your expectations for a new future that looks less like the past and more like your desired state of being.
  3. Write down at least five new standards to live by, now and in the future. For example, if your ideal state is “happiness,” you may want to break it down into what a happy state actually means to you. If you decide “spending time with my family,” and “getting enough sleep” are things that will help you experience happiness more fully, these are standards of living that will support your new state of being. Breaking down complex states into smaller thoughts, feelings and actions will help you ensure you are doing the things that make you create the actual experience.
  4. Manifest these five standards through your expectations. Each day as you practice you new standards, focus your thoughts, beliefs, and intention with a strong expectation of a successful outcome. Think as if what you expect is already true. You will find, as you change your thoughts, you will improve your life and expand your mind. When you expect the best, you release a magnetic force in your mind, which by the law of expectation tends to bring the best back to you. The law of expectation says that what you expect with positive thoughts and clear intention you will eventually receive. Scientists have determined, the very thought, or anticipation of meeting our expectations increases the dopamine in our brains and sets about a change in our neurotransmitters.  Repeated positive thoughts build new patterns in the brain that lead to more positive thoughts. Then intention triggers the transformation of energy and information and organizes the fulfillment.  Where you focus your thinking, is where your energy will go.
  5. At the end of each day, elevate your mental and emotional state by giving thanks for your life. Gratitude is the ultimate state of receiving.

With positive assumptions about our abilities to achieve our desires, standards on which to base our actions, and a strong expectation of achievement based on clear intentions and positive thoughts, the wheels are put in motion to create the reality of your aspirations. 

Even with small successes, your self-esteem will begin to improve. You will create a new thinking/feeling neurological pathway in your brain that supports your new desired state of being. When you change your state of being, your whole life changes, nothing remains the same, because you have changed, and everything on the outside has changed along with you.

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